dating for over 50s online seniors dating
For those just getting online for the first time and dipping your toe in the dating waters, especially if you are in your fourties, fifties, sixties, seventies and more, it may be worth bearing some of this handy advice in mind:
1. Get informed and know whats going on
This isn’t the dating scene your younger selves were used to. There are books, CDs, coaches, courses and any number of other resources available elsewhere on the web. But save yourself some money and try signing up to a site like Senior Dating UK for free and see what everyone else is doing. Read other profiles, see the diaries that people write, see the photos and see first hand how it all works. Offline, speak to your friends and see what they are doing online – you may be surprised to know how many of your friends and family are already finding friendship and romance online.
2. Have a dating discussion over a coffee with close friends of yours
Maybe it’s just us but we like to have a second opinion if I’m really interested in someone. My friends and family have the ability to see aspects of someone’s personality that I may not. Good close friends are always honest and candid about what they see and if they don’t like my date, they’ll say so. It’s not that their opinions are gospel, but they do offer the opportunity to view a date from a different perspective.
3. Put your best foot forward.
For online dating spend time writing a profile that shows you in the best light. Get a friend’s opinion on the final draft. And if you don’t have a great photo, ask that same friend to snap a nice candid shot for you to post.
Have a simple and flattering first date outfit. When you have that first date, you don’t have to agonize over what to where, how it fits, how you’ll look. You’ll already know and be able to head to meet someone new with a little less stress. And the best thing to show on the first date is the real you. At 50+, who has time for being anything but authentic.
Try these simple tips and get online today to start connecting and meeting new people for friendship and romance – go dating with over 50’s seniors online today.
Baby Boomers are utilizing the internet for dating more than any other age group. Some of them report great success while others have dismal experiences. As a psychotherapist who works with life transitions, I offer these thoughts to help improve your success.
Baby Boomers have different goals and needs than the younger folks using dating sites because they are in a different life stage. Understanding these differences can make your experience of midlife dating more enjoyable.
1. Boomers have had prior love relationships—usually at least one marriage. This changes both perception and expectation.
2. Boomers have built a life and are looking for someone with whom they can share it.
3. Rather than being “upwardly mobile,” Boomers usually are enjoying the fruits of their youth.
4. Boomers have developed strong belief systems—what they value, what they believe and who they vote for.
5.Boomers are looking for someone to share the hard times as well as the fun times. They know that life is short, people get sick and die, pensions can disappear and the unexpected happens.
By taking sometime to explore what kind of relationship they REALLY want at this stage in life, Baby Boomers are less likely to set themselves up for disappointment.
Donna F. Ferber, LPC, LADC
Author “Profileactics: A Guide for the Prevention of Ill-Conceived Personal Ads
Comment by Donna F. Ferber, LPC, LADC — January 8, 2010 @ 11:28 pm