October 14, 2014

Distance dating is artificial and strained

First and foremost, we get to know each other, slowly, in person; I want to meet you! (Writing endless emails is pointless; you can be anything in print.) And I really would like someone near home; distance dating is artificial and strained.We confide our feelings to each other. We communicate, agree and disagree. I value family and friends and it is very important to me that you do too.I honestly don’t know if I want to share a home with someone again – it would certainly be very far down the road.I am not one of life’s adventurers and don’t react well to change. Saying that, I am zany and full of fun; not particularly mature for the half century plus that I’ve been in the world. I am looking for an easy going, gentle, caring person who has a good sense of self and is fun to be with. So, if I haven’t deterred you thus far, please say hello. The words “I’m a dancer and would love to take you dancing!” will definitely get my attention. “Let me take you for a chat over coffee and cake,” comes a close second.

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September 16, 2014

Would love to meet someone nice

I am a friendly outgoing happy person who would love to meet someone, seems hard to meet anyone the traditional way (that is in a pub lol) these days so hence on here! I am not looking to become someones mistress, email buddy, play thing or milf/cougar but instead would like to meet just one person!! Life is for living and grabbing every opportunity that is thrown our way! Is there anyone out there that fancies taking a chance on me….!!!If you want to know anymore don’t hesitate to contact me……!!A childhood spent overseas has instilled a love of travel, with a preferance for warmer climates, although not a sun lounger and did spend last New Year at the ice hotel ! Enjoy spending time with friends and family, also with my god children, a perfect opportunity to be daft and have fun. I try to be active, although am easily persuaded to partake of a glass of wine or 2 instead ! Have recently rejoined the gym after knee surgery to correct a ski inury, so working on getting fit again, particularly enjoy spin and pilates. Like to think I’m caring, undertake some regular volunteering, i have a sense of fun and see the brighter side of life. My friends would probably describe me as outgoing although I do appreciate my quieter moments as well.

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September 9, 2014

Active creative person looking to meet new people

I am an active creative person looking to meet new people. I am a widow with two children both of whom are out on their own. I enjoy a variety of crafts and photography. I would love to travel and explore South Africa and the world . My favorite place to relax is the bush….I am an caring, honest, loving person. Enjoy life, being single is difficult to meet other people, so I am a bit afraid of the site, but would like to meet people that is sincere and honest and not fooling around for the fun of the site. I am a single mother of one. Integrity and drive, are qualities most attractive to me in others, and therefore what I strive for in myself. Don’t misunderstand, I’m no angel, merely work-in-progress. I’m being moulded by GOD daily.

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September 6, 2014

Committed Relationships – How Do You Achieve Commitment In A Relationship

We all know people in committed relationships and how often we have envied them. What do we mean by committed? Most couples are together because of a sexual attraction or shared interests. They do not start by being deeply committed to one another – that comes with time. When you have been together for years and have made a great effort to share all sides of your life i.e. the good times and the bad, you will share a deep and meaningful bond which is difficult to break.

People believe that relationships are easy. This is probably due in part to Hollywood promoting this fallacy but it is a pack of lies. There is nothing easy when it involves a man and a woman. The very fact that they are different sexes makes communication difficult before you add in cultural and social differences that may be present! When two people first meet they are in what is often called the fantasy stage. Everything is wonderful, he or she is the best thing that could have happened to you. Sex is great and you cannot get enough of each other. This period can last any length of time but it tends to have passed before you reach your first year anniversary.

By then you have started to get used to each other and perhaps take one another for granted. You are no longer brainwashed by the huge sexual attraction and his or her habits which you used to find endearing are now just annoying. You may have heard the phrase the honeymoon period is over, well this describes just this stage in any relationship.

But it gets worse, you could move onto a phase where all you appear to do is fight and argue. You have forgotten the fantasy stage and now your partner just irritates you. What is actually happening is that there is a power struggle going on with neither partner willing to give ground. People who survive this phase do so by learning how to communicate. This is something everyone of us needs to do and do properly.

Unfortunately effective communication skills are rarely thought at school or in the home. It is a real pity as good communication would save many relationships. It isn’t difficult to learn – by reading the Magic of Making up your skills at communicating will improve dramatically.

Once you get past the power struggle you will hopefully, if you are lucky, enter the committed phase of your relationship. Now you have been through so much together and survived. Your relationship is stronger as a result of the trials and arguments.

You love each other and have accepted the differences between you. Yes you know your partner has faults and irritating habits and they know you have as well but you both accept these. To have committed relationships is to enjoy deep love and it is an aim that all couples should strive for.

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August 29, 2014

Boyfriend Break Up – Easing Your Pain

Going through a tough boyfriend break up? I’m truly sorry for the pain you’re feeling. While it would be impossible for me, or anyone else, to totally take away all of your pain I do have some advice that might help you find a path to get past your pain more quickly. Not only that, but it also may help you get stronger than you were before so that some day, when you’re ready, you’ll be a strong and confidant woman and you’ll be able to open your heart and let love in again.

I can’t stress enough the importance of not only doing the right things at this time of your life, but also of avoiding so many of the mistakes that others make when going through a painful breakup. If you can avoid these mistakes you will be able to cut your ‘recovery’ time down considerably. Not only that, but you’ll also be able to move on without leaving a trail of wreckage like some heartbroken tornado.

First of all, what not to do: don’t try to talk your ex into getting back with you. He probably won’t. Don’t try to bury your pain by eating, drinking and smoking too much. All that will accomplish is help you gain weight and be hung over. Don’t try to find someone else to love. As long as you still have strong feelings for your ex you will only be on the rebound and if anyone does get involved with you they will be shortchanged because you simply won’t have much to give them. It’s just not fair to them.

Here are some of the things that you can, and should, do to help you not only get some relief from your pain but also speed up the healing process a little bit. Do take time to remember who you are. In most relationships we give up a little bit of ourselves, we stop doing things that we like doing simply because our partner has no interest in them. Now is the time for you to remember those things and start doing them again.

Do take on new challenges. Many people would say that now isn’t the time to take on challenges since new challenges can be stressful and you don’t need stress while grieving for your relationship. I say that new challenges can help keep your mind off of your ex. The pain you’re feeling is intense, it’s going to take something equally intense to help you push that pain back a little bit. A new challenge may be just the thing.

It doesn’t matter if you decide to go back to school, find a new job, or relocate to a new town or even a new country, these challenges can help you find a little relief from your pain as well as have a long term positive impact on your life. Think of it as a two for one!

Even though it might seem like it right now, going through a boyfriend break up isn’t the end of the world. If you handle it right it could even be the start of an exciting new world, just for you!

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August 22, 2014

Daughters Boyfriend

What should you do if you don’t think your daughters boyfriend is a good influence on her? This is a question more than one concerned parent has asked them self. I am lucky, my daughter didn’t date very many boys, and the ones she did date were really great young men. Now she’s happily married to a wonderful ex military man.

Everyone knows that the worst thing they can do is to forbid their daughter from seeing a certain boy. Every time you tell a teenager ‘no’ they hear a challenge to their independence. You have to tread very carefully.

If you’ve got some concerns, here are a few things that you can look into:

1. Instead of telling your daughter she can’t see him, make sure she understands the rules of dating. This will be much easier if you’ve had these rules in place since she’s been allowed to date. That way she won’t think you’re ‘picking on’ her new boyfriend.

The rules should include when and where she can see her boyfriend. What her curfew is as well as how late she is allowed to be on the phone or on the computer. Feel free to add any additional rules that you think might be helpful. One word of caution though, while rules are important if you become too strict she’ll just get that much more rebellious. Don’t overdo it on the rules.

2. Try to spend some time with her boyfriend. Be sincerely polite and friendly. That way if he is the type of boy who will try to turn your daughter against you, it will be a little tougher to do. If you’re being friendly and welcoming to her boyfriend he’ll have a hard time convincing your daughter that you don’t like him and that you’re being mean to him (which by the way can be a classic manipulation boys will use as a way to encourage their girlfriends to disobey their parents).

3. When explaining the household rules make sure the boyfriend is present. Again, this makes it tough for him to play games and pretend like he didn’t know what the rules were. Make the conversation friendly and casual and include both your daughter and her boyfriend… no matter how mortified she seems to be.

Hopefully the boy really isn’t as bad as you think he is. At that age a lot of kids try to act tougher than they really are and they love to challenge authority. If you make it clear that you aren’t going to be easy to manipulate and you’re not afraid to face these issues, by talking to your daughter and her boyfriend, head on it’s very likely that he’ll either behave himself or just get bored and move on to find a girl whose parents aren’t quite so involved in their daughters life.

One of the things many parents worry about is the type of people their kids are hanging out with. No where is this worry more real than if your daughters boyfriend seems like someone who can cause trouble. How you handle it can make all the difference between
helping your daughter see the light and having her openly defy you and your rules. Don’t roll over, but be careful how you approach this situation.

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August 15, 2014

Finding A Senior Dating Group

If you are a senior thinking about getting into a senior dating group, know that you aren’t alone. Many seniors are looking for potential mates that are approximately their age, so there are thousands if not millions of others who are thinking in the same direction you are. So the question really is: how do you find the right dating group for you?

Look for a Well Established Group

One of the best things you can look for is a group that is fairly well established. This doesn’t necessarily mean that they have to have a long business history though. A senior dating group can be great even if they are fairly new.

What you need to look for is a website that works well and doesn’t have technical difficulties. Also, a site that has a lot of members is preferable to one that one has a few people on it. If you can find feedback about a site, see what people are saying. Not all sites will have this feedback, but if a lot of people seemed to be pleased with the dating group, then there is a good chance you will be to.

Are You Comfortable With the Group?

While this may seem obvious to some, you definitely have to make sure you are comfortable with the senior dating group that you join.

One thing you need to check into is whether the group of people there is appealing to you. Does this site attract the type of people you would associate with in person? Just like any kind of dating, certain groups seem to attract certain types of people. There is nothing wrong with this! This is what they are for! But that does mean that you may be very “in-tune” with some groups, but not so much with others.

Some groups are all about creating long term relationships that lead to marriage. Other groups may be more interested in casual dating or are for those who aren’t positive they’re ready for a serious relationship. You need to find a senior dating group that has many members who are looking for the same kind of relationship that you are.

Don’t Be Afraid to Talk to Many People

One thing that really must be said is that you have to get out and talk to people in your group if you are going to find suitable dates. Talk to many different individuals, be yourself, and keep an open mind. You will probably soon start having great conversations and finding certain people that you are very interested in spending a lot of time talking to. Perhaps a whole lifetime.

By finding the right senior dating group for you, you will be much happier spending time mingling with the group, and you are more likely to get the results you are hoping for. No matter who you are, and what you want to get out of getting back into the dating scene, there is a great group out there for you to join. All you need to do is find it.

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August 1, 2014

Im french, living in London

Im french, living in London. Im witty, friendly, caring, sincere, funny (well…I think so), independent, confident (most of the time) ambitious; I dont take myself too seriously though. I like meeting new people (but can be a bit shy at first), eating out, travelling, shopping, art, good wine, champagne, smart people, lazy sundays, going to the gym (sometimes), learning new things, Italian language, so sexy!.
Qualities that are beautiful & important to me: generosity, intelligence, open-mindedness, honesty, sense of humor, good manners, gallantry, tenderness, patience.
Im looking for friendship at first, but secretly Im waiting for my Prince Charming so if you know him, just tell him where I am 😉

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July 28, 2014

looking for a handsome, thoughtful and kind man

I am looking for a handsome, thoughtful and kind man to share lives happiest moments with. Someone who is a gentleman, well brought up and from a good background as I am. Someone who is also looking to settle down and find their soul mate for life and explore new experiences together. All that I would hope for on a first date would be lots of good conversation, laughter and many good times to come. A person who is equally passionate about their dreams as I am and who would like to make the most of the happy moments that life can bring.

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July 24, 2014

ideal first date

My ideal first date would be in a romantic setting where we could spend time getting to know one another and sharing in each others experiences of life. I believe the world is my oyster and I am looking for that special someone to share in all the delightful and happy moments that life has to offer.

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